Update - baby

I realized the other day when our friend asked if Jillian was pregnant or not, I hadn't updated the blog.  So no, she's not pregnant.....of course we're really sad and I think we've gone through a bit of a depression.  One of the things that was so hard to deal with was the fact that she was actually 9 days late....each day giving us a bit of hope.  She did a bit of research and found that many women get negative results on pee tests for as long as two to three weeks into pregnancy, we could hope.  But it was not to be.

The same day she started her period, we went to our friend's house to talk to them about an idea we had.  Previously when Jillian was visiting, G off handedly said he'd give us his sperm in a dixie cup if we wanted.  Now we were ready to talk about what he meant, what are our options?  Jillian and I talked about what we wanted and what we would need to make it work for us and what our fears are.  It was a big decision to switch from sperm bank to a known donor.  We would want the donor to sign away his parental rights, but at the same time it was important to us that he be willing to be present and maybe even known to the child.  I wanted to make sure that his parents, his mother, the baby's grandma, would not be an issue, would not have an issue with lesbian parents for her grandchild....but we also believe a big family is good, the more to love, the better.  

So with that in mind, we went to G's house to ask him a few questions, would he be willing to sign over parental rights?  Yes.  He views giving us his sperm as a gift.

How does his wife feel about it?  She loves the fact that her husband gets this opportunity to father a child.  She already has an adult child and doesn't want a baby herself.  She's excited to have another baby in the tribe.

What about his parents?  His parents want to be grandparents.  He believes they will be great grandparents and will accept and love us.

How involved would he want to be? Would love to be as big a part of the child's life as we would like and feel comfortable with.

How public about the arrangement would he be willing to be?  Yell it from the rooftops if we wish :)

Who makes the important decisions about the child's life?  Again, the child will be ours, we make all decisions for the child.

What about who lives where?  Although he'd be bummed to not see his child as often as he's like, he would make no trouble or issue with us if we have to move apart from one another.

Gosh, right now, it seems like a great decision and we are looking forward to moving forward with this new plan.  Now the big question...exactly how are we going to get the sperm from him to her?  Of course there is the 'traditional' way, but who knows?